Becky’s areas of expertise include specializing in complex trauma, childhood sexual assault, and incest, working with both survivors and their loved ones. She has completed advanced training in complex trauma, various methods of trauma treatment, and is currently completing advanced training in dissociative identity disorder.
So what does this look like? Maybe you have experienced violence or emotional neglect in childhood. Or lived in an unsafe, ongoing environment. And now, you find yourself hyper-protective of yourself, walling yourself off from others, not sure how to let people in, struggling with behaviors that don’t match such as caring for yourself with the big picture by: binging, impulsive spending or living paycheck-to-paycheck and accepting this as a way of life even when you have the means to not, binge eating, drinking or using drugs recklessly or a lot, or other things that feel like they’re insurmountable. Maybe, likely even, you find yourself thinking of death, being dead, or even planning your suicide. The thoughts can feel out of control, your only way of escape, and terrifying.
Let me start by assuring you that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I know these feelings and behaviors, and have sat with many individuals who are feeling hopeless, and then worked to address the behaviors and heal from their root causes. This is often a slow process because trusting someone, even a therapist, can be terrifying. You may try and push me away, scare me off with your history, or even feel like it’s so much I should have to handle it.
Again, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I am here to sit with you through it all. I will NOT reject you for having been hurt in the past. Nor will I see you as someone who is broken or damaged. I will see you as an incredible survivor, hold on to hope even when you can’t, and cheerlead you through the hardest journey of your life. And if we find that you need a different level of care, the fit is not right, or something else occurs, I will do my best to connect you with another therapist who might be the right person for you.
I fully believe that the trust you are handing me is one of the most precious things I can hold, and promise to honor that and you as we proceed through the work. The work happens at YOUR pace. If you need to email me something or tell me something in the last 30 seconds of session because you feel like I will never want to know you again after you tell me, that’s ok. I WILL BE THERE. I will be there the next session, waiting for you, unless we discuss it explicitly. And I won’t push. I believe everyone’s story has to come at their pace. And if you tell me something and then can’t talk about it for 3 months, that’s ok. it’s your journey, your story, and I am on your timeline.
I know sending that email, text, or making that initial call can be one of the scariest moments of your life. I am here, and will respond to you as quickly as I can. I try to respond within 1 business day, but it may be sooner. Please don’t feel alone with this a moment longer, and reach out.
